Gave me chills. Beautiful.
Just learned my office is partly in “area of MEDIUM probability for containing intact archeological resources”! This is because the Georgia Tech campus is basically built on a Civil War battlefield. I also just learned that. (Related: The thing I wrote for the Burnaway party about Atlanta’s weirdly/maybe not weirdly lacking sense of its own history.)
I’ve been thinking a lot more about that Amanda Hess post about plantation weddings at Good yesterday, and my main issue with the piece now is just the fact that it really, really oversimplifies an issue that, in my experience, is actually quite tricky and also very present in the lives of a lot of Southerners I know—which is, how are we supposed to live here, in these states and on this land and in these cities and, often, in these buildings, that were either once the direct result of the enslavement of other human beings, or that at least sprang up because of or thanks to the economies of slavery, or the war that the issue of slavery was partially responsible for?
And I don’t mean “how are we supposed to live…?” rhetorically or dismissively, like, “Ugh, how am I supposed to live with this?” I mean it practically: What does it mean to us as humans, as Southerners, as possibly the descendants of either the white people that owned the slaves or the black people who were owned, to live in this world where vestments and monuments and attitudes of that world still exist?
The issue of negotiating history and our current contemporary lives and the huge but also sometimes not very huge gulf between those two is something that I think, in one way or another, most thoughtful Southerners engage with on some level in their lives. (Yes, probably even the people who Hess chastises for having their weddings on plantations, a “trend” that Good’s Twitter account quite simply calls “bad.”) It’s hard because so much of the very troubling legacy of the South’s past is so deeply interwoven in its present that I know I, for one, don’t even always notice it.
It seems like this is in part what Hess was troubled by about the plantation weddings—the spin that some of the venues put on their own pasts, which they may not even be doing consciously but just because that’s how the place has always been run and thought of itself (or maybe they’re more deliberate, focusing on the business savvy of the onetime white owners rather than the hundreds of human chattel he owned). She takes issue with just the flat-out misremembering of history, the glossing over, the shoving-under-the-rug of very very terrible things, even the outright flaunting and celebrating of those terrible things for glamor. I don’t doubt—in fact, I know for sure—that there are people, brides and grooms and whoever else, that engage in this all the time, and that it’s troubling and weird and is something that would probably be best if it was curbed. I agree that this should be talked about and called out. (And also the aesthetics of the South is a really complicated thing—the fact that the “old, rustic South” is gaining popularity as a wedding theme for folks not from the South is probably something that should be unpacked both from a design and a sociological/historical standpoint).
But it’s only one sliver of a very broad and strange and complicated spectrum, a spectrum that I feel Hess has reduced to one of its most glaringly terrible parts and condemned outright with a really stunning lack of nuance for a magazine and website and writer that I generally really respect and cheer for.
Something I also felt Hess skimmed over is the fact that plantations have modern functions well beyond hosting weddings, and what are we to make of those other activities that happen there in part because of the place’s natural beauty? What else is not OK to do there? Does it depend on the budget of the event, the number of guests, the lavishness of the decor?
Also frustratingly unrecognized is a fact that very much complicates her argument, which is that plantations are not the only remnant of the Old South where celebrations take place—therefore not the only venues that, in her logic, should be perhaps absolutely out of the running for any kind of celebratory or festive event. A friend pointed out on Twitter that the UNC Chapel Hill campus was built by slaves—there’s a monument to them, but should the campus refrain from hosting lavish events of any type? That seems ludicrous, but doesn’t Hess’s logic suggest that? Is it hypocritical or disrespectful that many thousand (mostly-white) students over the past hundred or so years have paid many many thousands of dollars to receive an education that was not made available to the very people who built the place, and that for lingering terrible reasons is not even available to many of those peoples’ descendants’ descendants’ descendants? That sounds like a flip question but, well, yeah, it is massively hypocritical and disrespectful. It’s a huge contradiction, one of so many that define the history of and modern state of the South, most of which are so big you can’t even really see them so you don’t know you’re looking at them, but that even when they’re glimpsed and recognized, what are you supposed to do but live with the contradictions every day, sit with them, know that it’s never going to be resolved?
It’s easy to rag on wedding-planning-people because they can get ridiculous and there’s this cultural bridezilla strawman that everyone loves throwing punches at. And it’s easy to feel uncomfortable about plantations, and plantation weddings, because those places were the epicenter, the place where all the commerce and the humanity intersected, perhaps where the divide between slave and slave-holder was most pronounced with the slattern slave quarters and the elaborate owners’ manse. But pretending the issue starts and ends there is horribly reductive, and horribly frustrating and insulting to the people whose weddings are being called racist, or those who sympathize with the people whose weddings are being called racist.
Up at the top of my post here is a link to a Wikipedia entry about a home and property that has been in my dad’s mom’s family for generations and generations and generations. They were one of the first families to live in the area that eventually became the town where my dad grew up. The house and land has been lived in pretty consistently, I think, for more than 150 years. When the original family lived there, it was not a plantation—they did not grow cotton—but they had slaves. The woman who lives there now is a caterer and throws big parties there and rents out the land to people outside the family for events and club meetings and weddings. A step-cousin of mine was married there a few years ago. We had my grandmother’s surprise 80th birthday there earlier this year. These parties happened in a house and on a property where at one point in time human beings that were owned by other human beings lived and worked and died. Not only that—all the life that happened there over the last 150+ years, the life that keeps happening even today, because people still live there, happened in a place where human beings that were owned by other human beings lived and worked and died.
I guess you could call that “racist.” But that just seems too easy.
I was going to post this as a comment on the actual piece itself—something I haven’t done in… years, maybe?—but it was too long.
But, some thoughts (using HANNAHJSTEPHENSON’s comment as a jumping-off point):
I wonder, too, if following this logic would mean that any celebratory event at a historic site tied to slavery or any other terrible human event should be reconsidered. And I’m not trying to be flip, here. Maybe it’s because I grew up in the South where it seems like there are more places like this—used as wedding venues and for many many other purposes—but I sympathize with and respect people who successfully marry places’ checkered pasts with enduring modern function.
So if you’re asking “why are people still getting married on plantations?” don’t you also have to ask, “why are people still doing anything on plantations?” or “why are people still doing anything on properties or in buildings directly linked to slavery or slave trade or institutionalized racism?”
As a kid, I went to plenty of 4th of July fireworks parties on Civil War battlefields—where thousands of people not only died but died, in part, defending their right to hold slaves. It’s not such a problem in Atlanta, where I live now—thanks, Sherman, etc—but in cities like, say, Charleston, there are still buildings in use that once housed slave auctions (like the King Street market, which I think is still an active marketplace for local artists and vendors).
It’s pretty easy to rag on wedding-planning folks for engaging in seemingly mindless, culturally/historically/racially insensitive behavior—I know, I’m planning my own wedding right now, and I know how people can get “in my state.” Folks in the throes of wedding planning can forget about the feelings and needs of the people closest to them… to say nothing of considering really really tricky matters of race and history and privledge. And that Colonial Africa wedding the other day makes a good peg to talk about plantations as a venue, I guess. But I’m not sure it’s totally fair to compare that with weddings (like the ones linked here) that just happen to take place on a plantation, not that went all-out with horribly insensitive antebellum trappings.
Setting up your venue like the set of a Hemingway short story and hiring what seems to be an all-black staff of waiters and not seeming to have any awareness of the weirdness of that is one thing. Praising a plantation venue’s beauty and deliberately spinning its history to make it more inviting as a wedding venue is another. And living with historical properties, in all their blotchy past and uncomfortable associations and enduring beauty (and, often, friendlier prices) is another altogether.
Having thought about it a little bit, I’m kinda disappointed that this post seems to forego a bit of much-needed nuance seemingly just for the snark factor.
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National Museum of American History blog | June brides and D-Day (h/t Ashley)
The material used in Rosalie’s gown not only saw combat, but was responsible for saving her groom’s life. … Bourland and his comrade spent a couple days in a foxhole and were able to use the parachute as a blanket to stay warm until they were discovered by Allied troops. He returned to his unit in time to participate in the Normandy Invasion on D-Day—June 6, 1944.
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Harris Street is Gone and John Portman Took It
The Atlanta City Council voted today to rename downtown Atlanta’s Harris Street to John Portman Boulevard, killing yet another piece of Atlanta’s history. Harris Street has held its name since at least 1886 when this Sanborn Fire Insurance map was made.
To be fair, Harris Street has actually been dead for a while, thanks to the work of its new namesake. Portman is credited by many as being a major player in the economic vitality of downtown Atlanta (a claim that has never convinced me). I prefer to think of him as the guy whose Peachtree Center complex set an example for blank, bland walls on downtown streets, killing the true vitality of this area.
His monolithic architecture is tailor-made for car culture. Drive into the parking deck, walk through a tube into your office building and never sully yourself with anything happening on the street level. Luckily, the lifeless street-level walls of his buildings and the parking decks that serve them leave nothing to be missed.
Above is a beautiful illustration from a 1960 Saturday Evening Post cover, taken from the wonderful Atlanta Time Machine site. It shows the intersection of Peachtree Street and Harris Street as it looked before Portman’s blank-wall monoliths killed the prospect for a continuation of the kind of street life depicted here.
Portman’s buildings didn’t save downtown Atlanta. They made it palatable for suburban commuters who didn’t want a real urban experience. And as long as their blank walls linger, they will continue stealing the chances for good urbanism in this area.
It’s entirely possible that Mr. Harris is somewhere up there looking down — suddenly grateful that his name is no longer attached to a dead street.
I work on this block and get to get depressed by its “blank-walled monoliths” on a near-daily basis. I’m glad to learn its history, but it might be worse, now, when I stand on that corner every afternoon on the way to the train and think about the lovely old tree that used to grow there, or when I make my inevitable weekly trips to Corner Bakery and know that I could be partaking in some of Davis’ Fine Food had I not come around fifty years too late. I will be consoled only by the fact that people of 1960 did not get to enjoy the healthy wonder of the Salad Trio!
Yesterday evening, Joe and I were driving to dinner and this story about Vaclav Havel came on NPR. Joe was like, “Did you know this guy invented the word ‘robot’?!” and my brain exploded everywhere. Then a story came on about the man who invented Esperanto and my brain reformed and exploded everywhere again. Turns out it was not Havel who coined “robot,” though—it was Karel Capek, also a Czech playwright, and he didn’t invent it so much as just rework an existing word. But! This is kind of like when you’re a kid and you realize your parents were once also kids, you know? Or maybe more like when you’re in your twenties and you realize your parents were once in their twenties—that carries a bit more of the same surreal weight, I guess. Either way, I know I’ll never know everything there is to know in the world, but I really hope that, throughout my life, I am continually delighted and floored by seemingly-obvious revelations like this. (And, I guess, like this too. Although I was mostly just mocked for those.)
Just realized that I had no idea where this word came from. The more you know!
Writer’s description of a woman interviewed for the Federal Writers’ Project in Atlanta, late 1930s or early 40s. A real study in backhanded insult, that. Thanks to Pecanne Log for digging through these archives and sparking what’s sure to be a real big nerdout for me when I get home tonight.